A New Year – made any resolutions? Not kept them just briefly into the New Year?
It can be hard to keep resolutions once the demands of the job keep coming along.
Being really clear about goals is a key starting point
- What do you want to achieve for the organisation?
- How do you need to lead in order to achieve these goals?
Sometimes the goals are externally set and you might feel there are too many of them and they are not realistic. Be clear in your own mind about what can be achieved and articulate these goals to yourself first – before sharing with others. Pin them up on your notice board or in your wok journal – whatever you use. Whatever way you use keep them simply stated and manageable.
Check your progress against them regularly.
Be firm with others about their roles in achieving the goals. Firmness is part of resilience but is not to be confused with rigidity or lack of flexibility.
Resilience also means staying calm emotionally when people around you are not delivering, behaving as you would hope or being challenging in a myriad of ways. Firstly it is important to recognise how people make you feel. Take 10 minutes at the end of the day to reflect on these feelings, write things down if this works for you.
Leave the reflection in the office and go home or to the gym or wherever, leaving those feelings behind. You can’t deal with issues until the next day.
Parking feelings takes some discipline but will help your emotional resilience considerably allowing you to focus on issues rather than personalities and behaviour more clearly and from a slight distance.
You know the quote “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”